Sex & Disability

Disability and sex are two words you rarely hear spoken in the same breath, but this does not need to be the case. A disability does not necessarily mean that your sex life should end, or become any less exciting. Of course, the sexual acts you can partake in will vary according to the disability you have, but for some people, a disability can cause parts of their body to become even more responsive to sexual touching. Through various sources we are made to believe that a disability can ruin your sex life, but this is far from the truth.

Adjusting

Having a disability will not only affect your social life, but will also require you to make adjustments in your sex life. Many disabled people are unsure how they may have sex in the first place, for example, if they are in a wheel chair. Also, many partners of those with a disability fear causing harm to their partner, due to the pain barrier not being in place if there is no feeling in a particular part of the body. Another worry for some people who are disabled is that they may ruin the moment in some way due to their condition. By communicating your worries and anxieties you and your partner can get through this.

How to enjoy sex

Below are some tips on how to enjoy having sex again:

  • Up to you - First and foremost, it is up to you and your partner to decide what you do and don’t enjoy. Tips and advice can only go so far, but it is ultimately down to the two of you to find what is best
  • Kissing and touching - If sexual intercourse is not a possibility, or is uncomfortable, then both partners can gain just as much enjoyment from kissing and touching, with oral pleasure another great way to sexually stimulate your partner
  • Mutual masturbation - Partaking in mutual masturbation can give more than sufficient pleasure to you and your partner
  • Communication - You must communicate what you do and don’t enjoy with your partner if sex is to remain an enticing event
  • Orgasm - Even if you have a spinal injury this does not necessarily mean that an orgasm is impossible. Of course, this will depend on the location of the spine injury
  • Know your limits - If a part of your body has lost feeling then this will prevent messages being sent to your brain when it experiences pain. This can cause damage to your body without your knowledge if you extend limbs beyond their limit

The help of a therapist

A sex therapist can help you and your partner to communicate your worries and concerns when it comes to sexual activity. They can also offer tips and advice on how to improve your sex life, and what adjustments may be needed in order for sex to be pleasurable once again

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