Get to the brunt of the problem
Arguing will often result in doors being slammed and a shouting match. But if you can learn to make arguments more constructive, then issues can be resolved much quicker. Below are some tips to help make those arguments a little less volatile:
- Try not to bring up the past.
- Do not mask your feelings. Uncover your emotions.
- Try not to generalise about incidents.
- If the argument is getting a bit too volatile then agree to take a break.
- Don’t bring into the argument things that other people have said.
- Try not to use personal insults. This will get you nowhere.
- Allow each other to speak their mind.
- Try not to raise your voice.
- Do not involve the children in your arguments. But, also, don’t try to hide the fact that there has been an argument. They are not stupid.